We all have lists. Grocery lists, to do lists, bucket lists… There are apps for managing lists and entire industry dedicated to designing catchy sticky notes. I have the tendency to enjoying creating lists. I have lists for everything-food, to do, etc. Most of the time they are motivating and nothing feels better than crossing off an accomplished task! However, there comes a time when the check list is not okay.
Setting the Scene: You are on a date at nice restaurant, the conversation is going well, you haven’t dropped or spilled anything, you’ve managed to make your date laugh, and you’ve started to wonder if there might be another date. And then those questions start flying. Religion, alcohol, future plans, babies. That’s when the date suddenly feels like a pop quiz. And the perfect score is unattainable. Suddenly, you’ve become the checklist. Your unprepared answers are being rated, calculate, and compared. The conversation becomes stilted and awkward. And running seems like the best option.
Has this happened to you? This is my declaration that I will no longer be the checklist. It has taken me a long time to truly feel ‘in control’ of my life and my destiny. But it has taken me even longer to realize that I have a choice in who I want to spend my time with. My answers to the pop quiz should not change according to the person who is asking them. And feeling judged or rated during a date is not okay.
So own it. Own who you are, your personality, your likes and dislikes. And then share it. Be wild, be crazy, laugh too loud, trip over your own feet, get food stuck in your teeth, tell that embarrassing story you swore you’d keep to yourself! Being true to your self will attract others of the same kind. And we all know that this is the quickest way to create your own happiness!
Have you ever experienced the checklist?
What have you done lately to own being you?